You can theoretically have unprotected sex with a stranger in the bathroom of a bar and end up spending the rest of your life with him.That does not inherently make this an effective strategy. Don’t stop seeing other guys until he’s acting like your boyfriend In my 11 years as a dating coach, I’ve repeatedly seen the power of chemistry.
He still has his online dating profile up and checks it regularly (we met on the site).
I trust him and know that he is being honest, but now that we have slept with each other, it makes me feel vulnerable and nervous.
I am very happy (and he said that he is happy when he is with me) and like him the more I get to know him.
He’s attentive (he texts and chats with me online every day), affectionate, asks me out regularly (we have seen each other multiple times every week since we met), and makes time for me (he has a lot of interests and activities).
Just because you had a great date, just because you had electric chemistry, just because you were at his place until 3am does NOT mean he wants you as his girlfriend and does NOT mean you are long-term compatible. You do not commit to someone who has given no indication he’s committing to you.
It just means you have a serious crush with potential. That guy still needs to follow up regularly in order to prove himself worthy. Now if he’s been calling you every night, and seeing you 3 times a week for the past few weeks, then yes, you can take down your profile and focus your energies on exploring this burgeoning relationship.
It’s the kind of thing that will be defined naturally by him calling you every day, spending every weekend with you, introducing you to his friends and family, and so on.
In other words, you should both “know” what you are without a heavy discussion.
I would like to know that he isn’t sleeping with anyone else and won’t be sleeping with anyone else while we are sleeping together.