"Many parents these days think they know what's going on with their kids. So kudos to you for educating the 'rents on what's going on." So many teens express this sentiment to me in one way or another that it reinforces my belief that despite the horrified looks on their faces when we bring it up, teens want to discuss sex and sexuality with an adult they trust. They just don't want to be the ones to bring it up.What's really going on You don't have to look too hard in your local paper, on the news, or yes, even in my e-mail inbox, to find panic-inducing stories about teens having group sex at parties or on buses or playing sex games and getting pregnant at tender ages—these rumors and trends are addressed in the next chapter.""They'd freak out.""They'd kick me out of the house.""They wouldn't understand.""They don't know what it's like to be a teenager now."Even though I generally like to take a listen-without-judging approach to teens, this is the one place where teens so often get it wrong.
I was the oracle, remembering each detail from my supporting role. I was causing trouble, making things difficult for everyone."What happened to you back there? Just like that, you lose your footing, and you're in over your head. He noticed my sudden distance and pouted, unsettling to see in an adult.
There was safety in the shadows, but also a kind of darkness. " my friend whispered as we walked back to the car with the guys a few steps ahead. "Like we were supposed to be boyfriend and girlfriend, or something.""Well," she said slowly. I'd completely accepted her romance with an older guy as normal, even destined. When he wasn't upset, he was in kindness overdrive, buying me things: a gold necklace with a floating heart, stuffed animals.
The Real Truth About Teens and Sex By Sabrina Weill Excerpt from Chapter 1Truth #1Teens Have Secrets About Sex (and They Want Adults to Know Them)Exclusive National Survey Results Teens: Tell the Truth!
Do you have a secret about your sex lifethat you'd never tell your parents? or get yelled at." —Bethany, 17, New Jersey Many parents have confessed to me that, at some point, they have experienced a nearly irrepressible urge to rifle through their teen's backpack. practically emblazoned with "Read me—she'll never notice."It's understandable that parents would want to do a little investigating.
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No question is off limits, and no answer is impossible! Teens Want to Close the Communication Gap As I was starting research for this book, I sent an e-mail to teens saying, "Listen, I know it can be hard to talk about sex, so if you tell me your secret thoughts, feelings, and actions, I'll share your words in a book, to help adults understand where you're coming from and how best to help you."You might think teens would say, "No thanks!I'll keep my most intimate thoughts to myself if it's all the same to you." It is, after all, the rare teen (dare I say, no teen) who wants to break the news about what they're up to sexually to their own parents.In this chapter, I want to provide the big picture: today's teen-sex landscape—what's going on with most teenagers across the country.These statistics and revelations are based on my interviews and contact with teenagers, as well as national surveys, including my nationwide Teens: Tell the Truth!There was something especially cool about being friends with them. ""So, no normal 20 year old wants to hang out with someone who is 15. Stay away from him."This was the sort of thing that always led to my leaving the room in a teary huff, maintaining loudly that she Just Didn't Understand. One Saturday, the guys planned a picnic in a nearby forest park. Even worse, I couldn't say why I didn't want to go with him. It seemed just about every woman I knew had a similar story, a time when wanting attention meant getting the wrong kind entirely.