We look forward to seeing you on [website] frequently.
Of course, this study lasted only four days, so it's unclear whether redemptive narratives work to reduce emotional distress in the long run.
It's also worth noting that the researchers didn't find that redemptive narratives emotional distress — just reduced it.
successful, spiritually minded, intelligent, good sense of humor, enjoys dancing and travelling. In those first weeks, she exchanged messages and a few calls with men, and even met some for coffee or lunch.
But nothing clicked — either they weren't her type or they weren't exactly who they said they were.
I am better off without somebody who doesn't treat me right." People who used cognitive processing included words like "because," "think," and "should." As it turns out, cognitive processing and redemptive narratives independently reduced the emotional distress people felt, which the researchers measured using questionnaires.
But redemptive narratives were even more effective than cognitive processing.
This seemed to be one of the problems with online dating.
She resolved to be pickier, only contacting men who were closely matched — 90 percent or more, as determined by the algorithm pulling the strings behind her online search. Back in college, she'd studied computer science and psychology, and she considered herself pretty tech-savvy.
I suspect a lot of people can relate to this desire — something about heartbreak makes us feel poetic and creative — like pouring our psychic guts out all over the page.